Busting some sex myths
In my years as a professional sex researcher, one of the most important things I’ve discovered is what people believe about sex rarely match the scientific facts.
Here’s an example – and a ridiculously easy question: what do most gay men do when they have sex? Think the answer is ‘anal’? Think again.
What tops the sex league?
A study of almost 25,000 actively gay men asked what kind of sex they last had. Anal, it turns out, was actually among the least commonly reported sex acts.
In fact, just over a third of gay men said they topped or bottomed the last time they had sex. Oral or kissing led the way (both at 75%), followed closely by mutual masturbation and genital rubbing.
This study also found that gay men have very diverse sex lives, with more than 1,300 combinations of sexual activities that took place. In other words – stop the presses – gay sex is a lot more varied and diverse than most people assume.
Quality over quantity
Don’t think we’re in the middle of an anal famine: a different study found that 83% of gay men have topped before, while 90% have bottomed. Almost all gay men have had anal sex—they’re just not doing it all the time.
The question is: why not?
Getting into the groove
These results, I suspect, tell us something important: that anal sex is something most guys don’t feel prepared for (or confident to attempt). It highlights the need for access to proper products that can help them feel prepared faster and more often.
Gay men deserve sexual products designed for who they are and what they need. The only way to ensure that goal, I believe, is through scientific research (and, of course, with the Future Method Anal Douche).
Sex isn’t about following a script of what you think you’re “supposed” to do—it’s about doing what you want to do. Science is helpful to show why what we think doesn’t always match up with what’s actually happening. It’s why getting information and products from good, scientific sources is essential for testing our assumptions and beliefs about sex.
So, when making sexual decisions and choosing sexual wellness products, your best bet is: let science be your guide.