The Butt Battle of the Sexes

Dr. Evan Goldstein

The Fun Stuff February 02, 2020

Straight women and gay men: comrades in arms, sure. But how much do other parts of their bodies have in common? Future Method decided to find out, with a focus on (what else) butt play.

A recent survey of over 600 American gay men (a mix of top, bottoms and vers) and straight women helped get to the bottom of what each community does with their bottoms. Whether you expected things to be completely different—or virtually the same—you won’t be disappointed.

Here are the highlights of what the survey uncovered:

Gay men bottom way more often

Bottoming: Men vs. Women

And while both sexes agree cleanliness is a must...

Cleanliness before Play: Men vs. Women

...women prepare to bottom less often than guys

Bottoming Prep: Men vs. Women

Preparation happens the same way, guy or girl

Bottoming Preparation Method: Men vs. Women

But condom use is very different

Condom Usage: Men vs. Women


But opinions on the use of toys (or the lack of them) seem more in agreement

Toy Usage: Men vs. Women


It turns out, when it comes to butt play, gay men are definitely from Venus and straight women Mars. How did you compare?

It’s our mission to make worry-free fun attainable, starting with the right products and education for all. Part of that mission is understanding the our differences (and similarities) in the way we play.

About the author

Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Co-Founder of Future Method and the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, the leading private practice in health and wellness for gay men. He received his MD from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School of Osteopathic Medicine. Dr. Goldstein is the go-to butt and bottoming expert, having been published in Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Healthline, and more. Learn about Dr. Goldstein by visiting his practice,

The views expressed in this article intend to highlight alternative studies and induce conversation. They are the views of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of Future Method, and are for informational purposes only, even if and to the extent that this article features the advice of physicians and medical practitioners. This article is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice.


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