Why We Need Better Education on Intimacy

Dr. Evan Goldstein

fundamentals September 06, 2019

It’s 2019 and we are still living in a world uninformed about different communities engage in the bedroom. It’s disappointing to see that we still don’t have readily accessible curriculums to support the way all communities engage when they get intimate.

Regardless of how you identify, we have a human right to impact and improve the quality of life of every single person on this planet. And why not? Hooking up can be liberating. It’s mysterious, it’s pleasurable. And we all deserve to engage however we desire. But when we lack appropriate resources, and still witness judgement and shame associated with certain practices, communities continue to suffer negative ramifications both psychosocially, mentally, and physically.

Most people don’t realize that intimacy-related consequences not only affect themselves, but also the community at large. 

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. That may be related to physics, but there is also a science to intimacy. Most people don’t realize that intimacy-related consequences not only affect themselves, but also the community at large. Education in this area is the first step to help mitigate this issue. That is why it is imperative for us to utilize our scientific and medical understandings of intimacy for the betterment of the LGBT and wider community.

Education varies wildly throughout the United States and the rest of the world. And how we learn about ‘doing it’, whether from school, friends, family, or even adult movies, depends on the individual. When it comes to the LGBTQ+ community, education in school is severely lacking. Currently, only 12 states require discussion of identity and, while identity is hugely important, it can’t stop there. 

Whose responsibility is it to educate our communities?

Today's youth has easy access to everything under the sun and they have probably been exposed to more than we give them credit for. What they need is a non-biased, affirmative educational platform where they can learn about intimacy with a scientific basis, focusing on proper techniques, while minimizing any negative ramifications. 


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Equipped with sound references from doctors, medical professionals, and other experts on the subject. People are becoming more and more comfortable talking about intimacy and exploring what was once considered taboo. There are so many professionals who have made it their mission to educate all generations on so many important issues, but this is one area that people are still afraid to confront. 

That’s when I realized it was part of my life’s mission to take this head on. One of my dear friends gave me advice years ago to just start writing. He said: if you blog it, people will read it. So that’s exactly what I did. And now, finally, press is catching up and I see a huge uptick in people talking about all things related to the butt. This is what spearheaded the launch of Future Method. The timing just felt right. 

What lies ahead needs to have a specific purpose and algorithm. And having the experience of caring for the LGBTQ+ community for the past ten years, I truly see the holes in the system. If we continue to wait for the majority to help us tell our own narrative, it will be too late. Using my practice expertise and now the Future Method platform, we can add not only a curriculum based on appropriate intimacy science, but also have forums to interact with all communities. It’s about damn time. All conversations foster forward progress. Please join us in fulfilling our mission.

About the author

Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Co-Founder of Future Method and the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, the leading private practice in health and wellness for gay men. He received his MD from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School of Osteopathic Medicine. Dr. Goldstein is the go-to butt and bottoming expert, having been published in Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Healthline, and more. Learn about Dr. Goldstein by visiting his practice, bespokesurgical.com.

The views expressed in this article intend to highlight alternative studies and induce conversation. They are the views of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of Future Method, and are for informational purposes only, even if and to the extent that this article features the advice of physicians and medical practitioners. This article is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice.


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