Rimming 101

Dr. Evan Goldstein

fundamentals July 13, 2020

What is rimming and why should I try it?

Your bum is a highly erogenous zone with a plethora of nerve endings. Because the pelvic floor is connected to the D or V, prostate (for those with one), and A, all of these contract in unison when you climax. Are you familiar with how it feels to have the nape of your neck or your lower stomach kissed? Well, when you have your bum “eaten” or rimmed (AKA analingus), it’s like that multiplied by a thousand. External butt play may also be a good stepping stone to getting into full backdoor play, as it’s not as traumatic, but just as enjoyable (and sometimes even more if done right).

How should I prepare to be rimmed?

First things first: hop in the shower. Everyone loves a squeaky-clean bum, especially if you’re going to be licking it like it’s an ice cream cone. A nice way to buff and smooth your hole is by using our Butt & Body Scrub. That should be plenty, but if you think things could go further (and deeper), you may want to first do a quick rinse with our Intimate Wash. I find it to be the perfect foreplay because it helps warm you up and relax your body before full penetration.

Second, you should consider grooming. Everyone’s taste is different--some people prefer a natural bush, while others prefer a completely smooth hole. If you or your partner(s) desire the latter, you should consider laser hair removal. We prefer this method instead of regularly shaving, sugaring, using Nair, or waxing. The microtrauma those methods cause to your bum can actually initiate local dermatitis and HPV activity. This can lead to skin tags and other growths. 

What’s the best way to enjoy rimming?

You can switch up the position, depending on what you like—on your back, on all fours, or on your stomach—all of these positions will give the rimmer a direct shot at your anus. You can even sit on their face! Sometimes it’s nice to give your partner a helping hand by spreading your cheeks while they dive in. And don’t forget to pay attention to other areas—the taint is super sensitive (for guys), as are the inner thighs and hip flexors. It’s such a sensitive part of the body, so try licking it (like a lollipop), brushing delicately by it, blowing warm or cool air on it, or even making out with it—the sensations are breathtaking. 

Is rimming safe?

The primary risks involved in rimming are your standard STD’s (like Hepatitis A, Herpes, HPV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and others), as well as bacterial infections (e.coli, salmonella). Giardia, a microscopic parasite that is passed through feces, and other parasites can also be present. Here are a few tips to help keep things safe:

  • Practice good hygiene by cleaning the external bum region, as well as just inside your body (some people have extraordinarily long tongues!). This will help lower your incidence of infections.
  • Avoid rimming if you or your partner has been sick or experiencing symptoms of a possible stomach bug and, of course, if either of you has an active STD.
  • Afterward, be sure to shower and/or rinse off any part of your body that you are engaged with and use Listerine (only the real stuff) to help to lower certain STD transmissions.
  • Stay away from baby wipes because they may encourage irritation in these areas.
  • Make sure you visit your primary doc routinely for full oral and bum evaluations. 
  • If you still don’t feel like the above precautions aren’t enough, remember there’s always a dental dam!

Ready to dive in?

While some people may be turned off at the idea of putting your tongue down there, if you take the proper precautions, it’s worth exploring. Most people say the experience is like nothing else they can describe. It can make your toes curl and your body shudder (in a good way, of course) and it’s also an act that can help bring you closer to your partner because what’s more intimate than this? Try it. You may love it. 

About the author

Dr. Evan Goldstein is the Co-Founder of Future Method and also the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, the leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of health and wellness care for the modern gay male. He received his medical doctorate from the University of Medicine and Dentistry School of Osteopathic Medicine in 2002. As the preeminent expert and thought leader in the field, Dr. Goldstein is committed to education and awareness—not only bringing the important issues surrounding intimate health to the forefront, but also eliminating the stigmas attached to it and has become the go-to butt and bottoming expert in mainstream media, having been published in Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Healthline, and Men’s Health, among others. If you'd like to find out more about the medical aspects of a healthy sexual life, visit Dr. Goldstein's practice, bespokesurgical.com.

The views expressed in this article intend to highlight alternative studies and induce conversation. They are the views of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of Future Method, and are for informational purposes only, even if and to the extent that this article features the advice of physicians and medical practitioners. This article is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice.

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