How Sexually Curious Are Americans? A Sex Survey

Future Method

Sex & Psychology January 23, 2023

Who needs a boring old box of chocolates this Valentine's Day when we all know that climaxing is the real dessert? It’s no secret that most people anticipate sex on special anniversaries or holidays, which presents the perfect opportunity to surprise your partner with something new. From butt play to role play, spicing up the bedroom with toys and other sexual experiments can take your relationship to the next level. But it begs the question, how sexually curious are Americans?

Future Method wanted to take a peek “under the sheets,” asking Americans about which sexual acts they’re most curious to try this Valentine’s Day and beyond. Which state is the most anal-curious? Which generation is the most open to trying anal sex this Valentine’s Day? Are partners more willing to do things outside of their everyday sex routine during special occasions? In our sex survey, we got to the bottom (and top) of these answers and more. Keep reading to see which state, generation, and orientation are the most open in the bedroom!

The Most Anal-Curious States of America

a U.S. heat map showing the states that are most curious to try anal sex

We sent sexual survey questions to over 3,000 Americans to find out how curious they were when it came to anal sex in the bedroom. Oregon is by far the most anal-curious with 44% of respondents who haven’t had anal sex open to booty play, followed by Nevada (43.3%), New Mexico (42.9%), Indiana (41.2%), and Pennsylvania (40.6%).

Other sexual survey findings include:

  • Out of the top ten most anal-curious states, we found that seven of them vote blue (Democrat).

  • 45% of respondents feel comfortable talking about anal sex with others. 28% do not feel comfortable and 27% feel neutral.

  • Respondents who aren't interested in trying anal sex say the biggest reason is due to fear that it will be painful and the second-biggest reason is the notion that it will be too unhygienic.

While certain states are more open to being a top or bottom (or both!), we wanted to dispel any fear around the idea that anal sex is too painful. When it comes to getting down to business, experts like our co-founder, Dr. Evan Goldstein, suggest, it’s all about preparation, clear communication, anal training, and lube — lots of lube.

If hygiene is the main concern, there’s a simple fix: an anal douche, that will help clear out any residue before having anal sex. Ours includes a scientifically-developed formula that gently cleanses before butt play, without hurting your bum.

Each State’s Sexual Fantasy This Valentine’s Day

One way to elevate your and your partner’s experience in the bedroom is by sharing your sexual fantasy with them. Different sexual activities like getting saved by a fireman or testing out a sex swing could even bring you and your partner closer.

Our sex survey revealed states like Minnesota, Georgia, and Nevada are open to BDSM — a sexual activity involving whips, masks, and a whole lot of dominance. Other states like Arkansas and Wisconsin gravitated toward anal sex, while Arizona, Kentucky, New York, and Virginia pined for role play.

Above all, however, 18 states, including places like Connecticut, Kansas, North Carolina, Ohio, Texas, and Rhode Island, among others, are yearning to try new sex positions the most. If that sounds like something you and your partner may be interested in then why not give anal a go? Our Anal Douche Powder Packs will help aid in all the best booty activities!

Sexual fantasies differ depending on geography and political affiliation. Our survey found that blue states (Democrat) are more interested in watching porn with a partner, BDSM, and roleplay, while red states (Republican) are more intent on having threesomes, sending nudes, and creating a sex video (red states are twice as likely as blue states to create a sex video this V-Day).

From Butt Play To Sex Rooms: What Are Americans Yearning to Try This V-Day?

If our sexual survey questions revealed anything, it’s that Americans are looking to get more creative in the bedroom this Valentine’s Day and that their sexual attitudes are changing.

66% of respondents say they’re more receptive to their partner’s sexual requests on V-Day. What’s more, 46% of LGBTQ+ respondents are planning on asking their date to try something new in the bedroom this Valentine’s Day versus 36% of straight respondents who say the same. This may be due to the LGBTQ+ community being more open-minded in the bedroom, which in turn places their partner’s satisfaction ahead of their own — a win-win if you ask us.

Whether you prefer to have hotel sex or fog up the car windows, different sexual activities like anal on V-Day are a must, according to 35% of respondents. While dinner and a movie may have been a thing of the past, younger generations are interested in trying anal sex on V-Day, with 38% of Gen Zers who have never had anal sex leaning toward “yes.” Only 10% of baby boomers desire the same.

Finally, when it comes to building a sex room, a large share of Americans (44%) are ready to tackle this saucy, interior design project, but bisexuals are the most eager. The majority of bi respondents (59%) say they’d consider building a pleasure zone in their homes to heat things up this Valentine’s Day. Did the viral Netflix obsession, “How to Build a Sex Room” spur this sexual fantasy? Perhaps so.

Talk Anal to Me: Which People Enjoy Anal Sex the Most?

It’s obvious from our results that anal sex isn’t strictly synonymous with the LGBTQ+ community, as 80% of straight, cis men enjoy having anal sex. Over 1 in every 3 straight, cis women (35%) say the same, crushing the stereotype that all women dislike anal. Sexual attitudes in the bedroom are changing, which is why it might be time to add anal to your sexual bucket list!

Overall, 69% of all respondents like anal sex (either giving or receiving), while 31% do not. But, as the saying goes, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. There’s often a debate about whether talking before sex kills the sexual tension or whether it’s better if you and your partner just jump right into it. Interestingly, 64% of respondents discussed having anal sex with a partner before having it, while 36% did not. What’s more, in addition to lube, 54% of respondents did some form of anal prep before having anal sex (using a butt plug, dildo, or douching), while 46% did not.

Americans Tell Us Their Biggest Sexual Mishaps

A romantic evening back at their place can quickly turn into a sexual fiasco. From throwing up to accidentally headbutting your partner, the list goes on and on. If you wind up on an episode of Sex Sent Me to the ER then chances are you may have gone a little too far. Scroll through the carousel below to read some of our survey respondents' biggest sexual mishaps –– from cumming in two seconds to having a family member walk in on you.

Closing Thoughts

“These survey findings emphasize that the stigma and fear surrounding anal play is extremely prevalent in today’s society,” explained sexual health and wellness expert Dr. Evan Goldstein. “Within these results, we found respondents who aren't interested in trying anal sex explain the biggest reason is due to fear surrounding pain. These findings reflect the same hesitations we see in our everyday interaction with patients and peers, as well as caution re: hygiene. If hygiene is a major concern for someone looking to engage, we recommend using a gentle and safe douche solution prior to penetration, such as Future Methods’ Anal Douche Powder Packs. With the proper education around anal preparation, we can work to eradicate those fears and encourage a pleasurable and healthy anal experience for everyone interested in experimenting.”

Your bedroom is all about you and your partner, but that doesn’t mean communicating your sexual fantasies to each other has to take a backseat. Sexual activities like anal can be a real game changer in the bedroom. When it comes to getting started, Future Method makes it easy. Products like our Anal Dilator Kit can help you prepare for a steamy night ahead. Relax your anal muscles to get the most out of this V-Day and every night after.

Methodology

To understand Americans’ sexual desires, we surveyed 3,180 sexually-active adults, ages 18 to 75, and analyzed a representative sample across geographic regions, genders, generations, and sexual orientations. The survey ran from December 6 to December 13, 2022. Note, Alaska, Montana, North Dakota, South Dakota, Vermont, and Wyoming are not included due to a low pool of survey respondents.

About the author

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The views expressed in this article intend to highlight alternative studies and induce conversation. They are the views of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of Future Method, and are for informational purposes only, even if and to the extent that this article features the advice of physicians and medical practitioners. This article is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment, and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice.

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